One of the most powerful exercises I’ve learned as a coach (and human being) was how to get clear on my values. On my journey, I learned that values unconsciously drive all our daily decisions. Every single one. My coaching trainer explained that if an area of your life isn't working, it's probably because you’re out of alignment with your values somewhere. As long as this disconnect exists, you won’t get what you want in life.
You might be asking, what even are values? Not to be confused with goals and morals, values are our deepest motivators in life – conscious and unconscious. They define where we’re headed, which explains why if we veer off course we can feel it pretty quickly. Our values are our deepest truth – our inner compass that determines what we are willing to spend time, money and energy on.
When I catapulted myself from earning less than $50K to becoming a high income earner, I first had to pinpoint my own values and start living in accordance with them. It was essential for me to achieve my goals, earn the money I wanted and become the person I wanted to be.
Finding out what your values are isn’t as daunting as you might think. It doesn’t involve going into a meditative state for hours or anything like that. All you do is:
1. List the core important areas of your life. Most people have three or four. These might be:
- Home life
- Personal growth/wellbeing
2. Underneath each section, write down words that, in an ideal world, would characterise this area of your life. It might look like this.
3. Now pick your top five – one or two from each section. This is what you live for. Post this list up in your home and carry it with you wherever you go. Consult it as often as possible, asking yourself: 'Which course of action aligns with my highest values?'
You may find you’re drawn to a number of values within a particular section. This is the area of your life that wields the most influence. If your values evolve – and they will – update the list.
Doing this helped me live in line with my deepest truths and highest purpose. You may think you’ll remember your values and won’t need to write them down, but here’s the thing: we forget. We get busy and the pressure mounts and we just… lose sight of them. Happens to the most clear-minded, level-headed of us all. The list element is key.
Seriously, this exercise transformed my life. My self-esteem went up. So did my confidence. And then I got the money I wanted. Before we can earn what we want, we must believe we are worth it. Aligning with our values is one of the most powerful ways of doing this.
Still hazy? If you're ready for a Values Power Session with me one-on-one, contact me to book. I can take you through the process in more detail and we’ll zero in on your values together.